“Clay also moulds the way you want.”

The word counselling carries the meaning of guiding. But what does guidance truly mean? Does it mean putting our thoughts into someone else’s mind, or does it mean helping them shape and understand their own thoughts? This question often defines the difference between counselling and controlling.

As teachers and parents, we frequently observe our little ones in need of guidance and counselling. However, as adults, we sometimes misunderstand the true essence of counselling. Instead of listening, we begin to impose our own opinions, believing that we know what is best for them.

Love and understanding form the foundation of effective counselling. A person feels truly understood when their thoughts, emotions, and perspectives are respected rather than judged. Respect creates trust and trust opens the door to meaningful conversations and positive change.

As rightly said, love and understanding are two wheels of a counselling cycle, without which the journey of counselling can never move forward. They give strength to every interaction and help build confidence in young minds.

Rather than forcing our ideas upon children, we should listen patiently, understand their feelings, and give them the freedom to express themselves. Just as clay takes shape through gentle hands and not force, young minds flourish when they are guided with empathy, respect, and compassion rather than pressure.

Written by- Simranjeet Kaur

(TGT ENGLISH )